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Raising Your Grandkids

Nowadays, it is common to see grandkids being raised by their grandparents–often considered as their guardians. Just like dutiful “parents”, they go to their grandkid’s school, attend PTA meetings, recitals, recognitions and many more; most of the time, they are the ones more dependable than the parents themselves so kids tend to go straight to the grandparents for assistance and care.

Caring for your grandchild comes in many different settings. It could be you living in your daughter/son’s house and assisting them in raising their kids—eventually taking over your grandchild’s affair or your daughter/son living with you, leaving the child to your care while he or she goes off to work everyday; these settings, of course, have no legal strings attached whatsoever. If brought to court in case of parental absence for whatever reasons, the maternal grandparents automatically gain legal custody of the child unless there’s an existing legal document stating otherwise. But what if the parents are living somewhere far and unknown, plus there’s no court ruling transfering the child’s custody in your name, what happens then?

Technically, the child still belongs to the parents and you’re just a temporary caregiver of the child although you could make a claim for guardianship especially if the parents pose great danger to the child’s welfare. If facts were presented then later on proven, and the court rewarded you the kid’s guardianship, the parents would have to go to court to reverse this ruling.

If your grandchild would have to stay with you for a long time, it is best to seek legal rights over the kid as soon as possible. These things are very important to ensure legal documents of the child such as school and medical records. Legal custody is also important, if and when the grandparent would seek financial help or assistance from the government to raise the child properly. There are many legal options which a grandparent may choose to take in raising the child, most common of which are legal guardianship or actually adopting the child which will award you with full parental rights over your grandchild from that point thereon; each has their own set of rules and restrictions applied. If you’re quite confused on how to go about these issues, consult local senior organizations and child welfare agencies near you. There are also support groups that are ready to assist you anytime.

Contrary to popular notion, caring for your grandchild can never put strain on your health; in fact, it was found out that the mere nurturing activity that occurs during the stage itself prolongs an older adult’s life. It’s a natural instinct for all living things—well, most—to care for their own and that includes us humans. Knowing that someone is depending on us makes us struggle to live and survive. Seniors who have had experience being a “parent” once more to their grandchild swear that they even altered their lifestyles because they were afraid to die early and leave the child on his own.