Finding balance in your life is plain hard work and unfortunately, it also requires tremendous amount of effort to do so. If you have, as of the moment, a partner, family and work, you may think that setting aside ample time for yourself is quite an impossible feat and singles are indeed luckier since they don’t have family to consume their time. THINK AGAIN, according to life coaches, singles also have this kind of problem—and more!
Shockingly, it was found out that most single seniors prefer to stay single just because they fear that with their busy, crazy life now, they are not anymore capable of handling a relationship and still function as an individual, human being like they used to when they were younger. This is especially true for those who have experiences of bad marriages and domineering partners. As much as they enjoy their single comfortable lives now, they still dream of having a partner to spend the rest of their lives but refuse to accept or even acknowledge this dream.
These fears are to be understood. Single seniors usually consider their newfound freedom as a liberating experience and think that this is their time to do whatever they want, whenever they want without having someone to tell them what to do. But upon deeper probe, these single seniors are found to have developed a different outlook when it comes to relationships and self-worth, far different from what they have 20 years back!
Single seniors want their independence, more than ever. This is one thing your partner needs to understand if they want the relationship to work.  Relationship experts suggest that you make it clear to a potential partner that you value your independence early on than risk it. Your partner, especially if he or she is about your age and status, would certainly understand it.
It was also suggested for single seniors looking to form a relationship with someone at this point of their lives to plan ahead, even if there’s no partner in sight as of the moment. Planning means you need to “draft” your priorities and your limitations as well as how far you are willing to give. Of course, plans can change during the course of the relationship itself but letting your partner know these things will help clear the air of expectations. It is also best if you express what you want from a relationship.
Remember to stick to your plans if you want balance in your life. There will be situations that will test your stand and you should be able to make wise decisions. If you feel uncomfortable at any point of the relationship, don’t hesitate to lay your terms and assess the relationship from there.