Many longtime partners will agree, somewhere along the line, the so-called “flame” will start to flicker and for some unfortunate couples, it eventually dies down without them even knowing it. This is usually the case with seniors who will suddenly go for a divorce, shocking everyone around them, even their already grown kids. Try as they might, they won’t find the right reasons to separate since there is none to begin with, it’s just that they have been in the relationship for too long, they are already missing what it’s like to be inlove.
It’s true. It really happens. It is possible to stay in a boring relationship but it is impossible not to dream of once in a while, falling in love. I am not saying that the love is now lost for these seniors, of course it’s there. In fact, it will forever be there. How else could a person live with someone if he or she doesn’t love the other, one way or another? Staying in a relationship and staying in love, apparently, are two different things although they are closely associated. Unfortunately, falling out of love has its own catastrophic effects. One of them is infidelity.
Seniors should know that it always takes two to tango especially in a relationship. When you fall out of love, it means that your partner must be feeling the same way too. If you feel there is something “lacking” in your relationship, do consider that your partner might be noticing it too. When you start looking for love some place else, then it’s time to check on your partner as he or she may be doing or entertaining the same thoughts as well. Do take note that most affairs form when a partner starts thinking of what is lacking in his or her own relationship rather than trying to fix it.
Never let passiveness settle in your relationship. The usual problem with longterm relationships is that it is fairly easy to feel comfortable with the “arrangement”, falling into a routine, and in the process, taking for granted your partner. When you start NOT seeing your partner as a person, instead, an object or something short of being a part of the house, that’s when you know you are now being a passive partner.
Always be there for your partner. Even if you two are living together for quite sometime now and somehow, managed to build and create your own characters as a person, there’s nothing like being the person who catches their backs when they are in need. This is also the best time to reconnect with your partner and make them feel they are still special in your eyes, wrinkles and all.