It’s not that I have something against them, in fact, I have lots of friends who belong to this group however, I tend to target the general older adult public when writing a post so I seldom write about gay/lesbian groups. If I am not mistaken, this would be my first time.
So why now? I just had a chat with my longtime lesbian friend and I found out that she’s been into online dating for quite some time now. Actually, her current girlfriend whom I find very attractive and not to mention, nice, is what I consider as a rare find even outside of the web community. So for the benefit of my senior readers who are also interested in finding their match over the internet, here are some of the tips I was able to squeeze out of my friend:
•    Be honest. When I say be honest, it means you have to lay your on the table but for security reasons, that should not include your personal information! This should be your habits and lifestyle such as drinking, smoking, political views, and religion (if it matters to you as well).
•    Be specific. Online dating sites which cater to gay/lesbian communities are most likely to ask you to choose a category for yourself since you are no longer bound to just Male/Female checkboxes. You can be a lesbian, butch, femme or any other identification you would like to belong to. This way it would be easier for a potential match to find you.
•    Check your ads. Check your grammar, your spelling, your ideas. Nothing turns off a potential match than an eyesore ad. Stay away from overused words such as “great smile” or “good sense of humor” instead give your readers your true essence. If possible, post a picture to go along with your profile.
•    Stay within the safe side—for now. Exchanging emails and chatting over the net would be your best option in assessing a potential match. Emails and chat names can easily be dumped if and when you caught a stalker or a freaky correspondent. Never give your home/office address as well as your phone/mobile number until you are really, really comfortable with the person or if you, both, are ready to take the relationship to the next level.
•    Never expect anything other than a friendly date. It is important for seniors to set their mind that online dating is not only done to seek longterm relationship. You can also find friends here and most of the time, most members are only out for friendship and nothing else. Take the liberty of not disappointing yourself by putting into mind that this is just another date. It may or may not turn out as you expect it to be.
•    Find a stable ground for first meeting–and keep it short. My friend suggests that you go meet for coffee or a drink for your first meeting. This way, you won’t risk spending long and exhausting night with someone who clearly isn’t your type.