Being in an institution can be hard for both the elderly and their visitors. Some family members openly admit that the experience can be traumatic and would prefer not to do it again if not for their beloved seniors. Moving into an assisted facility means “change” and for most seniors, it is unwelcome since most of them – if not all – are not really ready for it yet and would have to go through drastic lifestyle changes, physically, mentally and emotionally.
Now you understand where all those crankiness came from. However, it is important to make every visit count or make it more worthwhile. While we cannot really force a senior to be cheerful, we, as visitors, can definitely bring in the fun.
Most senior homes conduct orientation whenever a family is moving in (We say “family” as reference to the senior moving in and their families moving them) Orientation is done to familiarize the family of how the facility works. Orientations like this usually involve touring the facility and giving pep talks to both the senior and their families. The facility manager is most likely to tell you what they would like you to do in order to help the senior adjust to their new environment. It is expected to be tough but you would be advised to be more attentive and sensitive to your seniors. Families need not worry since the facility is likely to assist you. If they don’t then it is best to move your senior to another facility and report the facility to authorities. Remember that it is their job to assist the senior as well as their families upon admittance of the senior.
Communication is the key to a successful visit to your elderly despite the fact that keeping a good communication line can be hard considering their current situation. It is equally important for families to maintain some kind of continuity no matter how impossible the situation is. This is done to somehow lessen the impact of the lifestyle changes introduced to your senior. Furthermore, working hand-in-hand with healthcare professionals are highly encouraged to make sure your senior is receiving the right kind of care they require.
If your senior seems unresponsive, don’t ever take it personally. Sometimes they don’t even know what they are feeling, much less know that they are hurting you. There are other ways for you to connect with your senior. Experts suggest that you explore other ways such as touching and adapting the proper emotional tone when visiting.
Sometimes, all it takes is for you to listen and listen good. Never judge, never accuse and most of all, never impose. Learn to respect and listen from the heart. Remember that there will come a time when you’ll find yourself in their shoes and all you’ll ever want is for someone to respect you and listen to what you are trying to say.
