I have high regard for lifelong couples since they don’t take relationships as a game. In this day and age, 25 years of togetherness is commendable enough but more than that is truly admirable and somewhat inspiring. While I don’t have anything against divorces and breaking up, I just believe that it is important to really think things over before committing into something. That true love, when found, is really beautiful and could last a person a lifetime while if you try to couple up with every “love” that comes your way, you are wasting your time and you might miss your true love. Well, that’s just me.
Lifelong marriages have one thing in common: true happiness. A senior who belongs to a lifelong marriage is genuinely happy and content. Lifelong marriages have secrets too, as it also takes effort from both sides of the marriage. Do take note that lifelong marriages shouldn’t be one-sided such that one person loves the other more. What I found out is that love and understanding should come from both persons involved.
· Grow together. Not necessarily growing old together but the point is, humans, by nature, grow. As an individual, the need to grow is there; as a couple, the need to grow together should come naturally. Both should have the desire to grow and experience life with the other.
· Communication is the key. By the way, nagging is not communicating, I just want to make that clear. When you communicate, you talk, you listen, even if they are not too important things. Respect should also be there. When the other half is talking, you listen then in return, you should be given time to speak and be listened to. If communication is quite a pain, then that is a sure sign things are not working the way they should.
· Fight fair. When you suddenly find yourselves in opposing sides of an issue, do remember that winning an argument is not everything. Disagreements are okay – they can even be healthy at times since you will be able to get to know more about your partner but the difference is, you also have to know how to play fair and when to back down as well as accept defeat when necessary.
· Have fun and enjoy the relationship. Lifelong marriages are not a matter of being too comfortable with one another, it should be that you are still enjoying the company of your partner despite the years of togetherness.
· Stay physically and emotionally connected. The attraction should still be there and the need to cuddle should be as strong as the first time. Kissing, cuddling, snuggling and yes, sex, should still be part of the deal!