Since there is no magic spell that can bring a woman to your doorstep or rather out on a date, you may want to consider some practices to successful online dating. Attracting and impressing a woman online is not rocket science. Being an elderly, you may have enough experience in do’s and don’ts of dating but not in online dating.

Here are some online dating tips:

• Don’t talk about your troubled past

If you want your online date to stop contacting you, talk about your bad relationships. This is one behavior that can easily put off the woman. Your sexual past should not be brought up as well as your bitterness or bad divorce.

• Refrain from sending pictures of your private parts

Sending a picture of your most prized anatomy is not ideal at all. It is a complete turn off to women. The gross approach may be intended to let the woman know you are interested in sex. But as humans, we are all interested in sex without necessarily showing off our body parts. Therefore, get to know a person first before taking the step to show then your assets.

• Respect her requests

Respect her to make her feel safe during the first date or phone call. This not only shows you are a gentleman but also that you understand and care about her safety needs.

• Build some connection first

Connect with a potential love interest first before showing off what you have in terms of physical assets. Women may want to know if they like you first. Showing off or being boastful may seem ideal for an elderly when dating online. On the contrary, it may become boring and the woman might tune out the minute you begin mentioning what you own and where you have been.

• Use right grammar and sentences

When communicating using email or texts, use proper grammar. Construct sentences that ensure the online date knows you are at least educated and can have a proper written conversation.

Schedule sex

Scheduling sex may not sound sexy but it is a good move if you want to make time for sex. Find time for sex within your busy daily schedule. First, talk it out with your partner. Consider morning sex and date night. A senior couple can set a fantasy appointment and stick to the schedule.

Enjoy snuggle time

Snuggling can bring two people closer. Make time to snuggle and enjoy it. Getting close to your partner by snuggling can be relaxing. Cuddling can also make you feel sexy because it helps in the release of dopamine, which increases sexual desire.

Get yourself in the mood

Spend some time alone to get yourself feeling sexy. Use natural ways to get you in the mood. Stress less, eat food that makes you feel sexy and meditate to spark your sexy side.

Laugh a lot

Don’t be too serious. Laugh a lot with your partner and have a great time. Elderly couples tease each other and play silly games too to feel sexy. Laughter is not only joyful but also helps couples to bond. It can be sexy and quite a turn on as well.

Do it anyway even if you are not in the mood

Even if you don’t feel like it, do it. Just because you are not in the mood doesn’t mean you cannot get in the mood and enjoy sex.

Warm up with kisses

Kiss each other passionately, sexily, warmly, teasing and romantically. Nibble while kissing and tease each other with your mouths and tongues.

Do sexy things together

Enjoy being with each other by engaging in sexy things such as spending romantic nights, writing love letters or poems and massaging each other.

Use a delicate lubricant

During sexual intimacy, use a delicate and smooth lubricant to cut down friction and enjoy sex.

Have sex during high-energy time

Have sex when you have great energy and high sex drive.

Utilize sex toys

Bring some toys to facilitate your sexual pleasure.

At your old age, you are looking for someone mature and serious minded. Gone are the days where looks would play a great role when dating. Now that you are a lot wiser, and know what you want and who you are, you are in good position to find a compatible mate.

Be yourself

Don’t mirror to charm someone. Be yourself. Go for what you want and do what you love doing. You will be more comfortable as you than as someone else. Furthermore, you will be able to attract a person who likes you for you and not someone you are not.

Try a new activity

A new activity or activities can expand your social circle. If you are into dancing, visit the dance studio and connect with other people there. Find an activity that brings people together and creates an opportunity to know other people.

Consider online dating sites

Online dating sites can help you find your soul mate in your old age. Many websites offer senior dating services for singles over 50. Find the right site that suits your requirements.

Visit busy places

Busy places give you the potential to find a mate. The places include concerts, malls, museums, health clubs, airports, sporting events and volunteer events. You will find persons who are interested and those who are not. Chat people up and take it from there. If someone you talk to is not interested, don’t pursue them. You will find someone who is.

Keep it light

Have a good time on your first date. Don’t take it too seriously like a job interview. Enjoy your date’s company. Prepare conversation starters and continuers. Talk about things you are into and experience what each of you has to offer.

Rid of pre-date jitters

You can get over your pre-date jitters by communicating with your date before actually meeting. Use emails or talk on phone to connect and rid of the jitters. You can busy yourself before the date or call your friend for help.

Start with friendship

Don’t fall in love fast. Get to know your date first. Know if you are comfortable with him or her before taking it to the next level.

Open personal accounts to establish your own credit history in case you later need a loan or mortgage, during and after divorce . Also freeze your joint bank accounts and credit card accounts to avoid being responsible for buying sprees by your former spouse to-be. One more thing you should not forget after freezing the joint accounts is breaking the ties of insurance policies and the like. You should ensure that your car insurance policies and other insurances are changed to reflect your new solo status.

Other things to do when preparing for your divorce include sorting out your mortgage and rent payments. You should make arrangements with your spouse about who keeps the house or sell it to cut the shared responsibility. Also get ready to share retirement accounts. Pension funds are legally considered marital property and hence subject to negotiation even though only your name appears on pension and retirement schemes.

Finally, after settling your divorce, you should not forget changing your will. You can also change it as you prepare for the divorce and adjust it accordingly. Although in most states former spouses are automatically excluded from receiving under the will and serving as trustees, it is wise to adjust your will after settling the divorce to avoid ugly, unexpected situation and indeed confusion, when the time comes.

Common misconception about old age and sex is that as one ages the equipments stop working and one has to retire. It is true that effectiveness of the gadgets reduces as one continues to age but they can still get the job done no matter the age. It is a fact that for a senior man with over fifty years of age, his erection cannot be the same as it was when he was in his twenties but he still gets his hard on. Surveys have been conducted to clearly establish how a man’s sex life is affected by age and it has been found that over seventy five percent of men with over seventy years of age still get an erection. However, most get few erectile problems which can easily be rectified by a doctor. If you are a senior person you should not be worried because of an erectile dysfunction problem, instead you should just talk to your doctor for help. A lot can be done to make your manhood harder and even make sex last long for your love life to continue blazing.

It is also a common belief that once a woman reaches menopause, her sex life ends there, but, that again, is a wrong misconception. Naturally menopause leads to vaginal dryness as the hormones in the woman’s body changes but there are many solutions to solve this problem. There are plenty of sex lubricants which are available to improve vaginal dryness as well as hormonal creams and medication which can be used for same. When as a women you start experiencing discomfort from vaginal dryness, you should just talk to your doctor. It is very important to understand the changes that will happen in our bodies as we age but we should try as much to live comfortably. Do not let your love life go sour as you can still keep it fire blazing – with some help from your good doctor.

Some of us may say it would be more practical to test the waters first before jumping into the real thing. Add to that the fact that divorce is expensive nowadays and can get really messy. You move in, you live together, you continue to earn a living and you enjoy; yeah, It sounds as simple as that. But how sure are you that the stability in our relationship is guaranteed? It would be best if you can prepare yourself in terms of financial arrangements.

Financial arguments must be the most common reason for couples to start quarrelling. Why not arrange everything financially so that it can be clearly understood before reaching the point of being misunderstood? Here are a few pointers for unmarried couples when it comes to financial arrangements:

Living in one roof with no signed papers, more or less, means you are not tied and don’t have obligations to your partner in any way especially when it comes to financial aspects of the partnership.

Never assume your partner’s income as yours. You can act as husband and wife in terms of treating each other but when it comes to your bills, treat each other as roommates – as two separate beings. Room mates do share responsibilities in paying the electric, water, telephone/internet or even apartment rental. It would be better to rent a place than to own and have shares in paying the mortgage. This way, one does not need to raise an eyebrow when the other partner spends too much electricity in watching television or charging gadgets. No body would feel guilty if a friend or relative comes over for a sleepover. This deal might sound ironic for common law partners, but I assure you it would maintain harmony in your relationship in the long run – may even save it.

Have your own credit card. Risk your own credit standing when you feel like shopping. That exactly follows that you have to pay it with your own earnings as well. No one gets blamed if you overspend. Your partner would not stop you if you spend too much satisfying your wants.

It would also be very important to have each other understand that your assets and possessions are only yours and yours alone. Whatever you earn or invest does not need to be consulted with your partner. This is one way of being independent as a legally single individual. Don’t let your partner affect your decision in this matters since you are not yet bind in any way.

In the end, it all boils down to one thing, you still tick SINGLE when filling up legal forms. Financial decisions have to be treated as SINGLE as well. Don’t deprive yourself of being happy, just remember to protect your financial status at all times. Some of the things mentioned here can be harsh but if you come to think of it, who wants to be the one at the disadvantaged end of the stick when your partner find himself in a financial rut? Happy living!

So below are some of the new – old and rediscovered actually – ways you can express your love which your other half would appreciate more:

• Write them a love letter. If you are like half of the American population who don’t have any idea what to do with their hands anymore but to type on a keyboard, this is the right time to take the long route and rediscover “the paper and the pen”. They were your bestfriends when you started courting so it won’t hurt to give it another try.
• Prepare a simple, well thought-of meal and serve it during a mealtime when he or she won’t really expect it, like snacks or breakfast (do this if you haven’t done it before but if you do this regularly then think of another time when you haven’t)
• Bring them to a place where you call “your own”. It can be your porch or perhaps that little spot out the garden or the beach where you proposed. A couple always have a place so dear in their hearts so crank up your fogging memory and come up with the most memorable place you as a couple have ever been.
• Pick her flowers, from your garden. Or from the park if that’s okay, even your neighbor’s flower is good enough. It’s fresh and you’ve picked it yourself so it’s worth their attention.
• Do something together. Take the car and go for a quick joyride like you did when you were younger, visit places from your younger years, share a place dear to your heart. Share a little something more about yourself. They will surely appreciate that more.

10-15 years back, divorce at 60 is next to impossible. You don’t divorce at 60 back then, you just have to ride the waves and if the relationship turns sour, you just pray that your partner just drop dead. Divorce would be the farthest thing from your mind, now it is the next thing to come in mind as soon as you hit the aisle – some may even be thinking of divorce even before getting hitched!

Personally, I think there will be no good thing to ever come out of divorce. It is painful. Sometimes traumatic, not to mention can be really expensive. Personal advice is, if you are not sure of your partner then don’t get married at all. I’ve heard couples opting to live together and trying the relationship for years before finally getting married. This way, they will be able to “test” their compatibility when sharing a home and just call it quits if it won’t work. Unfortunately, this was not the practice during our time. Back then it was “have boyfriend, will marry” hence the number of senior couples hanging on just because our roots say so. This also makes it doubly difficult for seniors to cope with divorce. Below are some things you can do to survive divorce at 60:

* Strength is your bestfriend. In order to feel strong, you need to make your mind, body and soul stronger. Divorce is indeed draining but that doesn’t mean you have to let yourself be drained by what has been happening around you. Strengthen your body by exercising, your mind by meditation and soul by renewing faith.
* Seek closure. One of the most painful parts of a divorce is not knowing when to move on. And sometimes, even if you would want to leave everything behind you and start anew, divorce has this power to pull you back and make you suffer a little longer. At 60, you cannot afford dwelling on problems of the past as every single day is important. Do what you need to do now and move on.
* Reinvent yourself. Nothing screams new life than reinventing yourself. It will also make you feel in control and you have the freedom to do whatever you want.